If you came to this webpage looking for lore or gossip, I am afraid to tell you that you are going to be disappointed.
John Locke believed that our personal identities are formulated upon a continuity of our own consciousness. In other words, we know who we are now because we know who we've always been. Oftentimes, we think of this like "growing into ourselves". The idea here is that we learn from our experiences, and use this knowledge to change who we are based upon our past experiences. In this sense, we are no longer the same person we were before, whether "before" is 10 minutes, 10 days, 10 months, or 10 years. "You" as a person are constantly changing, like a Ship of Theseus trading out strengths and weaknesses.
While we are, for the most part, masters of our own identities, the same cannot be said about the identities others have for us. In that sense, others are subject to a mere preview of a human being from the time in which their paths lined up. You may grow into "yourself" later down the line, but others' perceptions and sense of you as a "person" will remain frozen in time unless the hands of fate ordain that you cross paths once again.
Such is fate - it seems like a cruel cycle then. If you think about the past, your understanding and perceptions of others will simply be all the information you had at the time. If you wonder about what others think of you, then you may come to realize they will only have a brief understanding of "you".
This web page, tragically, offers no solutions to this dilemma. These concepts are not ones that can be vanquished by theory or logic or philosophy, as they are such an innate part of human nature. Instead, it meekly offers commentary.
For those of you who were members, be kind to one another and recognize that one another's understanding of each other is a limited sample. Yet, at the same time, do not be afraid to take some caution at those who behave the same way.
For those of you who are reading from the outside, looking through like students of some microscopic part of history, be cautious to not drop into any of these pitfalls. Everyone here was human - whether good, bad, or frequently: both. Privacy is not only appreciated but also preferred by many.